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Everyone’s heard the stereotypes about frat guys. Frat guys are douche bags. Frat guys roofie girls while burning and pillaging sorority houses. Frat guys binge drink and wind up on some story on Dateline or 60 minutes. But beyond all the fabricated stories and stereotypes, fraternities are in a nutshell, the college experience.
If you strip down a fraternity to its bare essentials, what you have is a group of guys with a common interest who are all in college for primarily four things; meet girls, have fun, get a diploma, and have memories that will last forever. A fraternity is a breeding ground for fun, girls, drinking and memories. “Oh you like sports, you like girls, you like drinking and having fun, wait, let’s hang out and do this every weekend.” That’s what a fraternity is.
Where else can I go to a Tarzan and Jane party, get dressed up like a gorilla, drink eight shots of cheap alcohol, talk to girls dressed up like Flintstone models, and have fifteen hundred pictures where I’m grinning like a kid at Disneyland for the first time. Ok, so maybe we’re all douche bags for having fun, then that’s fine, I’m a douche bag.
As a member of a fraternity I made life long bonds coupled with thousands of memories that I will carry with me forever. The best part of it all was I never forced to jeopardize my morals at any point. If you choose to be a douche bag, it’s on you. But most fraternities are large, and you will realize that you will click with a smaller group within the fraternity that shares an even stronger shared set of interests than the large umbrella of the fraternity in general.
Obviously there are exceptions for everything, and people that are easilty influenced shouldn’t join a fraternity they have nothing in common with. If you’re a surfer or skater that enjoys Reggae Music, then joining the muscle strapped fraternity that loves country music and baseball probably isn’t the best fit for you. But that’s the best thing about it, fraternities are like going to the cereal aisle at Albertsons. The business fraternity is like the Wheaties of fraternities, not the best tasting cereal, but better for you in the long run. The fraternity that drinks and parties like a ‘Lil Wayne tour bus is like the Cookie Crisp of Cereals, great tasting not always the best for educational goals.
All I am saying as that its imperative to form your own opinion. While eight people might tell you that all fraternity guys are douche bags, its quite plasuable that none of them are speaking from experience. And when I say experience, I’m not talking about meeting an idiot at a party that happens to be in a fraternity, but actually trying the experience and seeing what its like for themselves. Before you decide whether or not to rush a fraternity, talk to both sides, make sure you know the benefits and negative side effects of joining a fraternity. I say this because for me, fraternity life was part of my college experience that I will never regret.
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